Posts Tagged ‘stress’

How To Get Happy

Monday, June 8th, 2009
Looking Away

Looking Away - Copyright Brian McEntire

There really is nothing wrong with being unhappy.  You just don’t want to get stuck there – that can lead to stress and depression and wreck your health.  When I’m not happy, I really let myself feel it, for just awhile (usually).  It really is normal to have feelings of pain, fear, disappointment, discomfort, heartbreak and sadness.  That is part of our human condition.  If we listen to the messages that our feelings are sending, if we let them get through instead of blocking them, we have the clues for how to get happy.

When I pay attention, I find myself grateful for the self-awareness, the realization that something is taking me out of my natural connection to the Divine.  It is the perfect opportunity to do a bit of digging to find out more about who I am and what would make me happy.  As nutty as it sounds, when you are allowing yourself to feel your deepest pain, you are just as alive and healthy as when you are feeling your greatest joy.

E-motions are energy in motion.  We are beings of energy and when any of our emotions are flowing through us we experience what it is to be alive.  If you can allow yourself to be a witness and get curious about what is at the root of your unhappiness, your world of opportunity expands.  When you try to ignore or suppress your pain, you block your energy.  When you are numb it is like being dead.  Your whole world, and your health, starts to shrink.

I’ve experienced that numbness.  Sometimes I tell myself that I just need a bit of a break so I can keep moving and get through whatever needs to be done.  When I let myself avoid my pain for too long, things really start to unravel.  I get stressed out easily, I start to get sick, opportunities dry up, I hide out, unfortunate “coincidences” happen.  My Higher Self gives me nudges to get on with it and deal with where I’ve gotten out of whack with who I really am.  Then I muster up a bit of courage and try to figure out why I’m so unhappy.  When I get to the bottom of it, I feel my sense of power returning, my light brightens again.  I see options opening up for me and gratitude flows through me.  Joy returns.

Feel all your emotions, listen to what they are trying to tell you, face them and follow where they are leading you.  Because all roads lead to who you really are.  The next time you feel unhappy, give yourself the gift of just being with that feeling.  Ask it what it wants you to know.  Ask, “Who Am I?  What do I want?  What could I do differently?”  Receive the blessing of self-awareness being offered.  Use the knowledge you gain to change your course.  Your light will shine again, until the next time something comes along to upset you.  Then you receive that gift and see what else you can find out about yourself.  This really is the secret of a happy life—using your unhappiness to lead you back to happiness again.

Many blessings,

Sharon

What Is Healing?

Monday, May 11th, 2009

Happy, Healthy Girl

Beautiful Attitude

I’ve been aware of Louise Hay’s brilliant philosophy on the body mind connection for many years.  When I accepted my calling to resume this work (only this time to do it as my main work), I was a bit challenged by the word “heal” in the title of Louise’s book, You Can Heal Your Life.  My belief is that we are all perfect, whole and complete, just the way we are.  That means that there is absolutely nothing to “heal.”  To me, if you thought you had to heal something, that meant that you were starting with the premise that something about you was broken or not right or sufficient.  This did not fit for me and I really wanted to avoid any implications that there was something not quite right with those I would be guiding.

The dictionary definition of heal is “to make whole and healthy; to cure [a method of medical treatment]; to remedy, repair.”  I certainly don’t want to get into any tangles with the medical establishment that I’m treading in their territory.  And I certainly don’t want to look at any individual and define them by any condition that they may have.  Everyone is already whole.  Then I was led to a definition that resonates so strongly for me that I actually put the word healing in the name of my practice—Lightn-ing Bug Healing.

“To heal is to make happy.” ~ A Course In Miracles

Looked at through this lens, I now read the title of Louise’s book in my mind as “You Can Have a Happy Life.”  And that, of course, is precisely what Louise’s philosophy is all about.  Anything that appears to not be working in our lives is a result of covering over our perfection by adopting beliefs that make us unhappy and cause us stress.  This mental and emotional stress then becomes physical stress.  We’re not stepping on anyone’s toes here.  Any doctor will tell you that emotional stress negatively affects your health—at least when it comes to things like heart disease and cancer.  Most haven’t yet leaped as far as to see a connection between emotional stress and all dis-ease.  There are, however, many researchers and doctors who are now coming to understand the broad implications of the body and mind connection.

There are doctors who will now suggest to their patients that, along with their medical treatment, they try things like meditation, deep breathing exercises and yoga to calm their mind and reduce stress.  These can be very effective coping mechanisms, but they may not get to the root of the stress very quickly or at all.  That’s what I love about the work that I do.  Each of the modalities I work with have their own approach to helping clients be happy, to “find their light.”

I’ll be writing about what I’ve learned from the You Can Heal Your Life philosophy and finding lasting happiness for yourself.

I’m going to be sharing with you how Rebirthing Breathwork can bring joy and light to your life.  I’ll also share with you spiritual purification techniques as taught by Leonard Orr, the founder of the rebirthing movement.

I will also post some of the shamanic teachings brought from the Inka people to the West by Alberto Villoldo.  More light and happiness for you.

Whenever I’m prompted by my guides, I’ll make random posts.  My particular guides like to go on about what really matters in life and how to get happy.

Given the definition of healing as “to make happy,” not all healing will result in a full remission of physical symptoms (although I still hold to the possibility of that outcome).  Some illnesses may persist, but the person experiencing that condition can come to terms with it and live their life fully and in complete joy.  Others may make their transition and pass from this world—but their healing is to do it in peace and feeling totally loved.  We will never know another soul’s journey.  Very often, we don’t even know our own.  What counts is that we live in love, in peace, in happiness.  That is authentic healing, and what I wish for you:  love, joy and living your own true and happylife.

Many blessings,

Sharon