
Looking Away - Copyright Brian McEntire
There really is nothing wrong with being unhappy. You just don’t want to get stuck there – that can lead to stress and depression and wreck your health. When I’m not happy, I really let myself feel it, for just awhile (usually). It really is normal to have feelings of pain, fear, disappointment, discomfort, heartbreak and sadness. That is part of our human condition. If we listen to the messages that our feelings are sending, if we let them get through instead of blocking them, we have the clues for how to get happy.
When I pay attention, I find myself grateful for the self-awareness, the realization that something is taking me out of my natural connection to the Divine. It is the perfect opportunity to do a bit of digging to find out more about who I am and what would make me happy. As nutty as it sounds, when you are allowing yourself to feel your deepest pain, you are just as alive and healthy as when you are feeling your greatest joy.
E-motions are energy in motion. We are beings of energy and when any of our emotions are flowing through us we experience what it is to be alive. If you can allow yourself to be a witness and get curious about what is at the root of your unhappiness, your world of opportunity expands. When you try to ignore or suppress your pain, you block your energy. When you are numb it is like being dead. Your whole world, and your health, starts to shrink.
I’ve experienced that numbness. Sometimes I tell myself that I just need a bit of a break so I can keep moving and get through whatever needs to be done. When I let myself avoid my pain for too long, things really start to unravel. I get stressed out easily, I start to get sick, opportunities dry up, I hide out, unfortunate “coincidences” happen. My Higher Self gives me nudges to get on with it and deal with where I’ve gotten out of whack with who I really am. Then I muster up a bit of courage and try to figure out why I’m so unhappy. When I get to the bottom of it, I feel my sense of power returning, my light brightens again. I see options opening up for me and gratitude flows through me. Joy returns.
Feel all your emotions, listen to what they are trying to tell you, face them and follow where they are leading you. Because all roads lead to who you really are. The next time you feel unhappy, give yourself the gift of just being with that feeling. Ask it what it wants you to know. Ask, “Who Am I? What do I want? What could I do differently?” Receive the blessing of self-awareness being offered. Use the knowledge you gain to change your course. Your light will shine again, until the next time something comes along to upset you. Then you receive that gift and see what else you can find out about yourself. This really is the secret of a happy life—using your unhappiness to lead you back to happiness again.
Many blessings,
Sharon
